Top 17 Reasons to Never Force Anyone to Talk to You
Many people try to force relationships with others, often for their benefit rather than the other person’s. We are all born with free will - we should never try to control what another person thinks or feels. Doing this will only stop us from developing healthy relationships with people who genuinely want to be in our lives.
There are deeper aspects when forcing another person to talk to you. The question, ‘Am I being emotionally abused?’ should be asked here. When a person is forcing what they want whilst leaving the other person feeling trapped, this crosses personal boundaries and is a form of emotional abuse.
Here are just some of the reasons why forcing relationships with others can be unhealthy for both parties:
You cannot control others
Forcing a relationship for one person’s emotional needs will not lead to a healthy, balanced partnership in the long term. This can be considered toxic, harmful, abusive and manipulative behaviour.
You don’t know what is going on in their life
We can never know why someone makes the choices they do. Give people space and time to work things out in their way.
You need to respect their wishes
When someone says, “I don’t wanna talk”, and we begin begging people to give us their energy and time, this negates their right to choose. Always respect what others think and feel.
The process should feel easy
Positive relationships should have a natural flow, balanced on both sides, and they tend to feel easy. When we have to win approval by begging, this is a sign that we are losing ourselves in the process, and we need to take a step back.
You are trying to get someone else to fulfil your needs
Our needs are always our responsibility; don’t expect another person to fulfil yours. Can you identify what need it is that you are trying to fill?
It’s inauthentic
When a relationship doesn’t have authentic roots, it will be unbalanced. A relationship designed on one person’s terms means you will never experience something special.
It’s not meant to be
Sometimes things are just not energetically aligned for us. As much as we try to control a situation, it might be that it isn’t meant to be, no matter the effort we put in. The healthiest thing we can do here is to accept this and let go.
It feels exhausting
Nothing is more draining than placing your energy somewhere it isn’t wanted. Take a step back and read the situation - is it time to reclaim your power?
You aren’t living in your power
When we play games and try to force our way with something, we no longer live in our power. Instead, empower yourself to take responsibility for the way you are feeling.
You are sacrificing your self worth
When you try to force a relationship, forgetting that you are special too, you may be undervaluing yourself. When we believe in who we are, we will attract the right people who will value us and want to be in our life.
It will hinder your growth
We cannot grow and evolve when we are stuck in the same patterns that we have always been in. Forcing yourself or somebody else into a harmful situation is unlikely to see you spiritually flourish.
You lose trust
When we forcefully try to communicate with someone who doesn’t want to reciprocate, we will lose trust in them. Building trust takes time, so honouring their wishes and taking a step back is important.
You lack patience
The best things take time. Don’t force communication; allow things to play out, and you might be surprised at what greets you.
It will not bring happiness
There is a difference between fleeting happiness and deep, long-lasting happiness. Controlling your life in this way may bring the former, but it will seldom bring you the real happiness you are looking for.
You are wasting your energy
You could better direct your energy towards people who genuinely want to be in your life. The ones who are staying with you are the ones who deserve your valuable time and energy.
It will push you further apart
Things that are forced tend to have the opposite effect. The more you push, the more likely someone will pull away from you. Give people the space to decide, on their terms, whether they want to communicate with you.
You need to let go
Don’t neglect your instincts - is it time to let go of this person or situation? Letting go will create space for new people and opportunities to enter your life.
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